Comments on: Guest Post: Tiffany on the guilt she carries http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/ Really... Thu, 17 May 2012 14:57:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Are we Protecting our Children or Stifling them? | Mom In Management http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-2972 Are we Protecting our Children or Stifling them? | Mom In Management Tue, 21 Dec 2010 18:06:13 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-2972 [...] incident involving evil people either.  Tragic accidents happen all the time.  I would be just as guilt ridden as Tiffany (Mom-nom) is because her son almost died in a golf cart accident last [...] [...] incident involving evil people either.  Tragic accidents happen all the time.  I would be just as guilt ridden as Tiffany (Mom-nom) is because her son almost died in a golf cart accident last [...]

]]> By: Krista http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1514 Krista Sat, 31 Jul 2010 08:21:43 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1514 Oh sweet friend, we all carry guilt, every single mom does. But God has already forgiven and forgotten. And what amazing strength and courage, to share, to seek therapy( love my therapist). My eldest had a blood clot in his brain 2 winters ago. I let him go skiing not knowing he was blind in one eye. I beat myself up regularly for not catching it soon enough, not getting him to Children's soon enough. He was 12 at the time, mommy guilt never goes away. But one look at that sweet (well not so sweet all the time teenager face) and I'm reminded, he's here. God's grace is sufficient and mommy guilt never goes away, it just changes form over the years. Oh sweet friend, we all carry guilt, every single mom does. But God has already forgiven and forgotten. And what amazing strength and courage, to share, to seek therapy( love my therapist). My eldest had a blood clot in his brain 2 winters ago. I let him go skiing not knowing he was blind in one eye. I beat myself up regularly for not catching it soon enough, not getting him to Children’s soon enough. He was 12 at the time, mommy guilt never goes away. But one look at that sweet (well not so sweet all the time teenager face) and I’m reminded, he’s here. God’s grace is sufficient and mommy guilt never goes away, it just changes form over the years.

]]> By: Krista http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1515 Krista Sat, 31 Jul 2010 08:21:38 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1515 Oh sweet friend, we all carry guilt, every single mom does. But God has already forgiven and forgotten. And what amazing strength and courage, to share, to seek therapy( love my therapist). My eldest had a blood clot in his brain 2 winters ago. I let him go skiing not knowing he was blind in one eye. I beat myself up regularly for not catching it soon enough, not getting him to Children's soon enough. He was 12 at the time, mommy guilt never goes away. But one look at that sweet (well not so sweet all the time teenager face) and I'm reminded, he's here. God's grace is sufficient and mommy guilt never goes away, it just changes form over the years. Oh sweet friend, we all carry guilt, every single mom does. But God has already forgiven and forgotten. And what amazing strength and courage, to share, to seek therapy( love my therapist). My eldest had a blood clot in his brain 2 winters ago. I let him go skiing not knowing he was blind in one eye. I beat myself up regularly for not catching it soon enough, not getting him to Children’s soon enough. He was 12 at the time, mommy guilt never goes away. But one look at that sweet (well not so sweet all the time teenager face) and I’m reminded, he’s here. God’s grace is sufficient and mommy guilt never goes away, it just changes form over the years.

]]> By: dy http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1458 dy Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:10:46 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1458 No one can know what next year, next month, tomorrow or even a minute from now will bring. it could be the most wonderful moment of your life.. or the most unbearable. you could not know what was about to happen. because if you could, it wouldn't have. you may think you could have prevented it. but you couldn't because life is unexpected. we've all let our kids do something that isn't 100% safe. you're not alone. and it's not your fault. you gave him what he needed to get through it and that's all a mama can do. be there. and do your best. everyone makes mistakes love. i hope you get to a place you can be at peace with this. xo No one can know what next year, next month, tomorrow or even a minute from now will bring. it could be the most wonderful moment of your life.. or the most unbearable. you could not know what was about to happen. because if you could, it wouldn’t have. you may think you could have prevented it. but you couldn’t because life is unexpected. we’ve all let our kids do something that isn’t 100% safe. you’re not alone. and it’s not your fault. you gave him what he needed to get through it and that’s all a mama can do. be there. and do your best. everyone makes mistakes love. i hope you get to a place you can be at peace with this. xo

]]> By: double jogging stroller http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1455 double jogging stroller Fri, 23 Jul 2010 12:54:49 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1455 Wow Tiffany. This was an extremely powerful post and I'm sorry that you've had to go through this. Just stay strong and know that there's nothing you can do now and that God has a plan. Stay Strong. Wow Tiffany. This was an extremely powerful post and I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through this. Just stay strong and know that there’s nothing you can do now and that God has a plan. Stay Strong.

]]> By: kris http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1450 kris Thu, 22 Jul 2010 22:29:26 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1450 We all have guilt. We have all made decisions (or failed to make decisions) that could have ended in tragedy for one of our children. For most of us? There is just a small stomach twinge of, "Oh geez, I shouldn't have let her do that!" And then for most of us? A smiling child is delivered safely to our arms. I am so sorry that for you . . . that smiling safe return? Was a little bit delayed. Much love. We all have guilt.

We have all made decisions (or failed to make decisions) that could have ended in tragedy for one of our children.

For most of us? There is just a small stomach twinge of, “Oh geez, I shouldn’t have let her do that!”

And then for most of us? A smiling child is delivered safely to our arms.

I am so sorry that for you . . . that smiling safe return?

Was a little bit delayed.

Much love.

]]> By: CB http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1433 CB Thu, 22 Jul 2010 03:22:28 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1433 Oh honey, we all have our ghosts... There are things I can't bring myself to share on my blog either... It's okay and accidents happen. You had NO idea that it would happen and until it did, you wouldn't have worried about it. That's how it is for all of us, we don't think about it until it fucks us... I'm so sorry sugar. I'm going to read that other link... Oh honey, we all have our ghosts… There are things I can’t bring myself to share on my blog either… It’s okay and accidents happen. You had NO idea that it would happen and until it did, you wouldn’t have worried about it.

That’s how it is for all of us, we don’t think about it until it fucks us…

I’m so sorry sugar. I’m going to read that other link…

]]> By: Megan (Best of Fates) http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1432 Megan (Best of Fates) Wed, 21 Jul 2010 20:40:59 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1432 Oh Tiffany - what a heart-wrenching post. I think the most important thing to think about is that guilt, to an extent, is simply an inability to move on. An inability to accept life the way it is, and that nothing can be done to change the past - and the only thing holding on does is hurt the future. And as anyone who has read your blog knows, you're an amazing mom. I hope you find it in yourself to grant forgiveness. You deserve it. Oh Tiffany – what a heart-wrenching post. I think the most important thing to think about is that guilt, to an extent, is simply an inability to move on. An inability to accept life the way it is, and that nothing can be done to change the past – and the only thing holding on does is hurt the future. And as anyone who has read your blog knows, you’re an amazing mom.

I hope you find it in yourself to grant forgiveness.

You deserve it.

]]> By: Missy http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1430 Missy Wed, 21 Jul 2010 19:46:16 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1430 Sending you prayers for peace. Wonderful post! Sending you prayers for peace.

Wonderful post!

]]> By: DadStreet http://notmommyoftheyear.com/2010/07/21/guest-post-tiffany-on-the-guilt-she-carries/comment-page-1/#comment-1428 DadStreet Wed, 21 Jul 2010 19:12:05 +0000 http://notmommyoftheyear.com/?p=1155#comment-1428 What a devastating time in your life this must have been. I can't even bring myself to think about the actual moments of that terrifying accident. For the minute I do, I start to cry thinking of my babies. Just like Mom's us Dad's have an unyeilding sense and responsibility to "CARE" for our babies. We get tied up in the moments. Those smiles are so powerful! I can see your boy smiling now as he was riding and how much joy that must have brought you. Those smiles are powerful! Sometimes we face extreme conflict. We want them to be happy but we also want to protect them. Fear not though...You did protect him. You were there for him when it happened. You cared for him like a Mom should. You nurtured him like a Mom should and you loved him like a Mom should. We can't help what happens to us or to them sometimes but we can help how we respond. You responded as a Mom should and I think that's what you should focus on. What a devastating time in your life this must have been. I can’t even bring myself to think about the actual moments of that terrifying accident. For the minute I do, I start to cry thinking of my babies. Just like Mom’s us Dad’s have an unyeilding sense and responsibility to “CARE” for our babies. We get tied up in the moments. Those smiles are so powerful! I can see your boy smiling now as he was riding and how much joy that must have brought you. Those smiles are powerful!

Sometimes we face extreme conflict. We want them to be happy but we also want to protect them. Fear not though…You did protect him. You were there for him when it happened. You cared for him like a Mom should. You nurtured him like a Mom should and you loved him like a Mom should.
We can’t help what happens to us or to them sometimes but we can help how we respond. You responded as a Mom should and I think that’s what you should focus on.

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