Comments on: I didn’t screw this one up yet, so let’s talk about baby #2

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 20:16:49 +0000

All of those things went through my head too. I was sooo ready to get pregnant with baby #2. We ended up waiting until our first was 21 months to get pregnant, so mine are 2.5 yrs apart. One really funny thing though..I remember feeling like my oldest wasn’t a baby anymore and that he was so independent. I craved that snuggle time that you get with a newborn. Then when my second one was born, it hit me like a ton of bricks just how young my oldest still really was and how much he actually still needed me !

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 01:52:38 +0000

I do the mental 9 month calculator in my head too. I just cannot decide! Ugh! And in the long run I know it’s not even up to me so I should quit stressing about planning it- but I just can’t help it. And then I come to the same conclusion as you- It’ll happen when it happens.

By: jackie

jackie — Sun, 23 May 2010 00:09:13 +0000

I’ve been talking about having baby #2, but my husband is not giving in. He’s the planner and he’s always thinking about money, saving for college, and all the what ifs. All I can think about is wanting my son to grow up with a brother or sister. He’s going to be 4 years old next month, and he was absolutely wonderful as a baby and now. My husband keeps telling me he’ll have plenty of friends and cousins, but that’s definitely not the same as having a brother or sister.

By: Bethany

Bethany — Fri, 21 May 2010 14:26:10 +0000

great, great post. we had a similar situation. we decided to start trying again when our first was just seven months old. we wanted them close. i didn’t get pregnant until 16 months later! blah!

By: Heligirl

Heligirl — Wed, 19 May 2010 01:46:17 +0000

@kristas, dude I remember because it was my birthday! Uggggg.

By: Miranda

Miranda — Tue, 18 May 2010 20:45:53 +0000

I am finding so many bloggers that I think are the same person as me. My ute aches like it’s nobody’s business when I see a newborn. I long to smell newborn baby and hear the sweet little baby squeaks and coos.

And then my child, 14 months, wakes up screaming at 2:00am and I am quickly thrust back into reality.

I am not ready to do this again.

But you should totally do this again so I can live vicariously through you.

By: kristas

kristas — Tue, 18 May 2010 16:27:17 +0000

@Heligirl, haha! I read this on my phone this morning and laughed outloud at the “puking my brains out by 9/18/08″ part. I love that you remembered the date. I’ve tried my best to forget about the morning sickness.

By: Heligirl

Heligirl — Tue, 18 May 2010 03:06:14 +0000

Girl, were we separated at birth? Because you sound JUST LIKE ME when my daughter was about that age. My period hadn’t come back yet and I was starting to worry that I wouldn’t be able to have the kids as close together as I liked. I wanted them less than two years apart, born during the school year (because I LOVED having birthday parties where I could bring my friends home after school and felt sorry for summer kids), and I wasn’t getting any younger. So the day my period returned just before my daughter turned 11 months, I was bouncing off the walls. I had one month to get it right or I’d have to wait until December.

Guess what, no matter how long you had to try for that first one, the second comes pretty fast for the most part. I remember my period came on 8/8/08 (I remember because of the weird date) and I was looking at two pink lines on 9/5/08. Of course, I was puking my brains out by 9/18/08 and on and on, but I had a beautiful baby boy the next May (during the school year) only 20 months younger than his big sister. I had all the same worries, but, you know what, it just happens. You love them both and differently. You’d do anything for either of them, and when they start interacting, it melts your heart. Of course, you want to bang their heads together when they fight, but I just remember how much I love my baby brother and it all works out.

Good luck sweetie. Just touch base with your doctor to make sure there’s no issue with getting pregnant now.

-Jen (http://www.heligirl.com)

By: Janene

Janene — Tue, 18 May 2010 02:13:09 +0000

Stopping by from D-Listed – thanks for dropping by my blog!

I really wish I would have been able to think about things the way you are thinking about them…my son and daughter are 14 months apart. We didn’t plan our daughter – in fact, it never even crossed our mind that we could get pregnant again so soon. Not that we were thinking that it was impossible…we just figured that we had to try for our son so any future babies we would have to try for, too. WRONG.

Then, the twins were a complete and total shock. We weren’t trying, we were using condoms (long story why we weren’t using some other kind of birth control) and there was this one time that we didn’t take the 30 second time out it takes to put a condom on and…twin boys 9 months later – less than 3 years after my daughter.

You know what, though – I probably wouldn’t have planned it this way and I’m having a blast! Things aren’t always perfect. Things are more often than not really tough…but this is what life is about. To be honest, my son doesn’t remember a time without his sister – to him, she’s always been here. He wasn’t jealous and I have plenty of love to go around for all my children…but I had the same worries you mentioned and have learned they are really nothing to worry about.

Okay – so after that extremely long comment here’s what I think:

Go for it. I can’t imagine any loving mother regretting having a child she wants because it is the wrong “time”…if you wait for the right “time” you may be waiting forever.

By: Saffy

Saffy — Mon, 17 May 2010 22:51:41 +0000

I’m sooooooooo pleased to see that there are so many other over-planners out there too!!! All your thoughts and fears that you’ve blogged about there – yeah, I get them totally. Then I wonder how a newborn can make my heart flutter when I have a deliciously gorgeous 9mo. Crazy hormones. Sigh